What next? 4 steps for changing gears as your kids grow up

As our children get older, less demanding on our time and more independent, we might find ourselves emerging from the trenches, poking our heads over the parapet and asking ourselves, “what next?”  A moment like this could be a great catalyst for you to change gears in your life.

Do you want to start a business? Study to retrain for a job you’ve always wanted? Volunteer for something you’re passionate about? Write that book? Learn to make your own granola? Or continue to be a stay at home mum, or remain in your current job, but carve out more time for your own health and wellbeing? The possibilities go on….

reassessing life

As mums, transitions where we can reassess our lives often happen at stages of our kids’ development –when they go to pre-school, primary school, high school, university or even leave home. How do you make these decisions? You don’t need to be super brave, or super confident to recraft your life. It’s about taking the time to ask yourself who you are now and what you want, then putting in a plan to get there using your strengths and talents. Easier said than done, but it’s a process that is very possible to do. Helping mums recraft their lives or work to suit changing needs is a big part of what we help our clients do at Flourishing Mothers. 

Here are our recommended 4 steps to changing gears in your life.

  1. Start with your values. These change as you get older and move through different stages of your life, but once you understand them you can use them as a guide for decision-making

  2. Have a dream for the future. What would you regret not doing? What’s on your bucket list? What would you absolutely love to do but never have had time or resources?

  3. Understand your strengths. Once you’ve identified your performance and character strengths, you can apply them to recraft your life, pursue your goals and give your wellbeing a huge boost at the same time

  4. Set authentic and motivating goals. Goals that align to your values and dreams, and use your strengths in specific ways, are highly motivating and more likely to be achieved.  

By way of example, when my children started primary school, I went back to study (I’d always wanted to do more), then started my own part-time business that would fit with school hours, but deliver on my values of community contribution and my passion around helping mums learn skills I wish I’d had when I became a mother.

We find many mothers spend more time planning family holidays or activities for their kids than planning their lives! Does this sound like you? Then maybe it’s time to take stock of your own life and make some plans for your next stage. We’d love to guide you in the process with our programs and tools.  

With love, from Flourishing Mothers