I hope I’m not late for work today, I hope I’ll complete the fun run, I hope my child’s cold improves, I hope I can keep to this healthy diet……..
Hoping for the best can be seen as a pretty passive activity. Today, we at Flourishing Mothers, want to reposition hope as a strong force for achievement of your goals. Hope can be a tool to get us through the crazy busy days, and the frustratingly slow dragging days, because simply setting goals is not enough.
Positive Psychology defines hope as “goal directed thinking” in which you recognise both the different ways in which you can achieve your goals and believe that you have the motivation to confidently try those different routes. It’s about identifying different strategies and being ready to learn along the way for continued growth and improvement.
Over many years, hope has been shown to be measurable, and scientifically proven to lead to positive outcomes and future success. High levels of hope also seem to predict higher levels of well-being.
What is exciting is that the research shows that hope is not a genetic trait but something that can be learned – so we can all benefit!
Mums – we want to encourage you to harness hope to move you towards your goals. Here are some ways you can increase your level of hope:
- Initially choose goals you know you can achieve – then celebrate your success.
- When faced with a big project, break it down into achievable chunks and track your progress as you go.
- Engage in activities you feel good about to increase your feelings of competency. Look for ways to use those activities to achieve other goals.
- Don’t lose hope – if something isn’t going well, look for a different pathway to try, and keep taking small steps.
Finally, the fact that hope is a learned behaviour means that it’s a great thing to demonstrate to our kids and encourage them right from the start to look for different ways to achieve a task and to be motivated to try and learn.
Best wishes from Flourishing Mothers
Adapted by Flourishing Mothers from the work of Charles R. Synder.